i recently moved to a new state, about 3-4 hours away from where i have lived since i was 15. originally i was excited, we were going to buy a house and live in the mountains and start a new chapter. we moved because hes a semi truck mechanic and he wanted to persue his career more, gain experience and this new job also gave him a fat pay raise (went from 2.5k a month to almost 4k)

well, we ended up in a roomate situation in an apartment in the city with a lady with two kids and a dog. her dog is mean asf to my dog, her kids are obnoxious, she keeps making passes at my bf. my dogs are miserable, im miserable. my dogs went from a half acre fenced in yard with almost unlimited outside time to kennels and leashed walks. we live in a smaller city so i have to drive 45 mins to and from work, i get home when its dark and the drive is awful with there being bad traffic half of the time.

my passion is dogs and motorcycles. i had to sell my bike in the move and with spring around the corner and it being very unlikley i get a bike by then im becoming increasingly depressed. not to mention even if i had a bike i wouldnt be able to ride as much as im getting home later from work and without a yard for my dogs to run in they wouldnt be able to be home alone as long.

i cant do my monthly grooming with my dogs as theres no space in the apartment to groom them so we are missing out on one on one bonding time and im having to pay heafty grooming fees to have someone else groom them.

i hate it here, im trying really hard to stay happy but ive been noticably more angry since weve been here. it feels like im put back in my mentally ill teenage years where id go to school and come home and be locked in my room. i litterally go to work and come home and go to our room. her kids are rowdy and obnoxious and they antaganize my dog so its easier for me to just take them to our room and stay until morning.

idk, im just mad asf, i was promised a house with a yard and pretty scenery and was given a shared apartment in a shabby city, i miss my dad, i miss my bike, i missed getting home before the sun set and watching my dogs run and play in the yard.

i have to end this here or ill start a tangent about every tiny detail.

any words of encouragement are appreciated.

I am out of my depth here, but I'd urge you to talk, really talk, about this with him. And before that reevaluate how objective are you being about all these( I don't wanna imply anything, just that sometimes emotions can afflicts us more than we think and we should not ignore our emotions, but sometimes they need rationalizing, very primitive example: "I don't feel like going to morning classes" every once in a while if one needs mental break it is reasonable to take one, but I feel like this on daily ^^""" but in order to get good education I have to go to classes even in the morning and I cannot reschedule so I have to sort of ignore my feelings at that moment and go to class), I'll assume you are being objective and rational, you sounds like that.

I see this has been great opportunity for him, both financial and he is doing what he loves, but you kind of took a leap of faith (if you guys were married it would be bit different, but also marriage comes with its own set of legal rules so I get it if it is not for someone right now or ever, just saying that legally speaking this was financial upgrade for him, not you unless he is willing to share, but he is not legally obliged to) and it does not seem to be going too great for you... I think seeing how he sees this new situation could be beneficial, like is he happy with everything or is house situation bothersome enough for him to regret this move, for making future decisions. I'd say most important thing to discuss would be living situation - why it is what it is, what happened to original plan (who was supposed to make it happen, what went wrong), what steps can be taken towards changing current situation (cause sadly it does not seem like it can be made more tolerable, like it sounds like you have to move to another house, there is nothing that you can do about behaviour of other people, their kids and their dogs). Other stuff might be fixed with another house, but you might not be in a position to be picky or it is too pricey, so um yeah, my point is, talk to him (don't attack him or blame him, but do let him know that this is not what you can tolerate for years or rest of your lives, that acclimating period is not an excuse if you had to let go of so many things that made you you and that feeling unsafe/tense in your primary residence is just bs, it will errode at you sooner or later, it is a horrible feeling, sadly I know this for reasons). Good luck, I hope you can get a good house soon and return to what you love to do as well as keep your relationship healthy and mutually supporitve <3